Get Over Yourself
Good evening boys and girls. The topic for today's blog entry is... And I quote: "Get Over Yourself". I decided to take a chance or rather accept a challenge and allow someone else to choose my topic. If tonight's entry is an abomination, the person's contact info can be found at the bottom right hand corner of the page in Aramaic.
Where do I start? As an artist whose blog is about himself and the things I go through on a daily basis, how do I write an entry on getting over oneself? I've given it some thought and here's what came to mind:
No matter the profession, no matter the action, everything we say and do has an effect on someone else in this world. You might be saying, "Nah, B, you're wrong. What if I sit in my room and talk to myself or better yet, what if I just sit in my room alone in silence? That doesn't effect anyone else but me!" When I was 15 I probably would have agreed with you. However, doing that, sitting in your room alone in silence, is extremely selfish and deprives the rest of the world of what you have to offer. You are actually robbing someone else the opportunity to come in contact with you and who knows, maybe they have a gift that you need to keep you from this selfish act. Do yourself a favor and get over yourself and give someone a chance to get to know you. Who knows what you'll learn about yourself in the process.
There are others who might say this doesn't apply to them because they work alone or play a one person sport like golf or tennis. I laugh in their faces. Get over yourself! No matter what you do, you are effecting someone else. Let's look at the game of golf for a quick second. Even if you're on the course all alone and not playing in a tournament and have no caddie to help you from shot to shot, your time spent on that course has an effect on someone else. First of all, someone has to maintain the grounds so that you have a course on which to play. The way you feel after playing your round will then have an effect on your interaction with others once you leave this secluded course. Even during the round when no one is around to see or hear you and you're like the tree that is falling in the woods wondering if anyone can hear you, you have an effect on someone who could be thinking of you and questioning why they haven't seen you or might be curious about what you're doing. An errant drive may hit a bird or deer and injure them. Now you've upset the animal kingdom! These are all far fetched scenarios, but do you catch my drift?
When on a team, no matter if it's for sports or a work, you must get over yourself in order for the team to function in a cohesive way that breeds success for the members involved. If you're selfish and think it's all about you, you end up only doing things in a self-centered fashion which short changes the rest of the team. If you're having a bad game or bad day, get over yourself. Someone else is depending on you to stay in the moment and focus on the task at hand not the last play or incident. That's in the past and can't be changed. Right now, they need you and you need them so that the team can succeed.
I see a lot of selfish actors in my line of work. Selfish actors love to upstage their scene partners, they are often unprepared, they show up late, and heaven forbid they get a little press; you'd think the show was about them and no one else was in it. The phrase "one bad apple spoils the bunch" applies here because the rest of the cast begins to resent that actor. They talk about that actor in ways that brings out the ugly side of their minds. Yes, the cast is united against the selfish actor, but divided as a whole.
You may have seen these people at work. The world revolves around them in their eyes. The sun rises and sets on them and when things go wrong, the whole world is against them and no quantity of Coke and/or smiles will change their attitude. They find a way to shoot down every suggestion making an excuse as to why the suggestion won't quite work for them. People like this tend to be miserable and love company. If they befriend you, do them a favor and tell them to get over themselves. The world is not out to get them and once they focus on someone else for a change they will start to see that life isn't that bad after all. If you are this person I'm describing, consider this: you talk to someone on a daily basis and probably ruin their day because of all the negativity with which you burden them. If you don't ruin their day, you probably cause their parade to have a rain delay. Your being selfish and only talking about your problems and focusing on the negative all of the time, brings other people down and they probably don't like your ass too much. I'm sorry to break it to you but, they talk about you... and it ain't nothing nice!
The main point I'm attempting to make is just be considerate of others at all times. The things you say and do permeate this world in ways you have yet to realize. We are all connected even if we're oceans apart from one another. Get over that wall or barrier that is preventing you from having lasting relationships with people in this world that create pleasant experiences in your life. It's not always easy and it's not always fun, but put someone else first for once and get over yourself. That might be the only thing preventing you from finding what it is you've been looking for all of your life. Wouldn't it be a shame if you never found it or it couldn't get to you because you were in the way?
Where do I start? As an artist whose blog is about himself and the things I go through on a daily basis, how do I write an entry on getting over oneself? I've given it some thought and here's what came to mind:
No matter the profession, no matter the action, everything we say and do has an effect on someone else in this world. You might be saying, "Nah, B, you're wrong. What if I sit in my room and talk to myself or better yet, what if I just sit in my room alone in silence? That doesn't effect anyone else but me!" When I was 15 I probably would have agreed with you. However, doing that, sitting in your room alone in silence, is extremely selfish and deprives the rest of the world of what you have to offer. You are actually robbing someone else the opportunity to come in contact with you and who knows, maybe they have a gift that you need to keep you from this selfish act. Do yourself a favor and get over yourself and give someone a chance to get to know you. Who knows what you'll learn about yourself in the process.
There are others who might say this doesn't apply to them because they work alone or play a one person sport like golf or tennis. I laugh in their faces. Get over yourself! No matter what you do, you are effecting someone else. Let's look at the game of golf for a quick second. Even if you're on the course all alone and not playing in a tournament and have no caddie to help you from shot to shot, your time spent on that course has an effect on someone else. First of all, someone has to maintain the grounds so that you have a course on which to play. The way you feel after playing your round will then have an effect on your interaction with others once you leave this secluded course. Even during the round when no one is around to see or hear you and you're like the tree that is falling in the woods wondering if anyone can hear you, you have an effect on someone who could be thinking of you and questioning why they haven't seen you or might be curious about what you're doing. An errant drive may hit a bird or deer and injure them. Now you've upset the animal kingdom! These are all far fetched scenarios, but do you catch my drift?
When on a team, no matter if it's for sports or a work, you must get over yourself in order for the team to function in a cohesive way that breeds success for the members involved. If you're selfish and think it's all about you, you end up only doing things in a self-centered fashion which short changes the rest of the team. If you're having a bad game or bad day, get over yourself. Someone else is depending on you to stay in the moment and focus on the task at hand not the last play or incident. That's in the past and can't be changed. Right now, they need you and you need them so that the team can succeed.
I see a lot of selfish actors in my line of work. Selfish actors love to upstage their scene partners, they are often unprepared, they show up late, and heaven forbid they get a little press; you'd think the show was about them and no one else was in it. The phrase "one bad apple spoils the bunch" applies here because the rest of the cast begins to resent that actor. They talk about that actor in ways that brings out the ugly side of their minds. Yes, the cast is united against the selfish actor, but divided as a whole.
You may have seen these people at work. The world revolves around them in their eyes. The sun rises and sets on them and when things go wrong, the whole world is against them and no quantity of Coke and/or smiles will change their attitude. They find a way to shoot down every suggestion making an excuse as to why the suggestion won't quite work for them. People like this tend to be miserable and love company. If they befriend you, do them a favor and tell them to get over themselves. The world is not out to get them and once they focus on someone else for a change they will start to see that life isn't that bad after all. If you are this person I'm describing, consider this: you talk to someone on a daily basis and probably ruin their day because of all the negativity with which you burden them. If you don't ruin their day, you probably cause their parade to have a rain delay. Your being selfish and only talking about your problems and focusing on the negative all of the time, brings other people down and they probably don't like your ass too much. I'm sorry to break it to you but, they talk about you... and it ain't nothing nice!
The main point I'm attempting to make is just be considerate of others at all times. The things you say and do permeate this world in ways you have yet to realize. We are all connected even if we're oceans apart from one another. Get over that wall or barrier that is preventing you from having lasting relationships with people in this world that create pleasant experiences in your life. It's not always easy and it's not always fun, but put someone else first for once and get over yourself. That might be the only thing preventing you from finding what it is you've been looking for all of your life. Wouldn't it be a shame if you never found it or it couldn't get to you because you were in the way?
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